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“Other people are not medicine.” — Something I still haven’t learned (via blutwunden) -
“TRUST - Did you ever have someone tell you, “Trust me. You won’t be sorry.” Or, “You can trust me.” Or, “Don’t you trust me?” What is trust? In the examples I just cited, the meaning of “trust me” is akin to the meaning of “believe me.” It is frequently used in this sense, and the terms can often be used interchangeably. Trust is also used to convey a meaning similar to hope. As in, “I trust that you’re in good health.” “I trust that you’re enjoying this beautiful weather.”
Trust, as a quality, bears similarities to honesty, integrity, and reliabilty. You come to trust someone. One person doesn’t, generally, trust another person without having, at least, some sense that they are worthy of trust. Perhaps, they were taken in by someone in the past who told them to “trust me” - and found that that person didn’t tell the truth, or misled them.
Trust most often comes to be “earned” over time. You can develop trust in your doctor, or your plumber, or any number of different kinds of people. Most any person can, potentially, be someone you trust. And yet you may have found, to your dismay, and possibly to your horror…that you trusted some people that you shouldn’t have trusted. Maybe they lied, maybe they cheated, maybe they tried to take advantage of you or harm you in some way. You trusted them, and they let you down. By their behavior, they tarnished the meaning of the word trust for you.
The trust that people put in each other is not to be taken lightly. If I tell you I can’t swim, and you push me in the water - I’m not likely to trust you around water again, anytime soon. If I tell you I’m allergic to strawberries and you make me something with strawberries in it and I get sick - I’m not likely to trust you to prepare food for me again, anytime soon. If we agree to be exclusive in our relationship and I walk in on you having sex with someone else, I’m not likely to trust you to be faithful again, anytime soon.
Trust, in love and friendship relationships, is very important. Bonds of closeness develop which, if broken, can cause great pain and sadness. Trust that was, in some cases, built up over many years can be destroyed overnight. This doesn’t mean that it can’t be restored. If an incident was isolated or one of a kind, there may be greater willingness on the part of the one who was hurt, to forgive. But if hurtful behavior continues, and there are still trust issues…it may, very well, signify the end of the relationship.”— Bruce Adler (via wnq-writers) -
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